Why Effective Therapy Can Be So Awkward
Effective therapy mandates that we experiment with doing something different in our relationships. Knowing why awkwardness is so necessary to this process can help us embrace it in therapy…
Read MoreDistress in the Couple, Distress in the Self; Parallel Processes
How patterns of criticism and withdrawal apply to both couples and individuals, and what we can do about it.
Read MoreStress: Simpler is better
A simple, encompassing definition of stress also gives us a simple, encompassing solution.
Read MoreWhy your psychologist won't give you advice
It can be frustrating when our counselor just won’t tell us what to do. Yet, there are often very good reasons why avoiding advice is the right choice for your psychologist to make in helping you best.
Read MoreOvercoming Procrastination: 3 simple steps and an overarching worldview
Procrastination is an inherent feature of brains which seek to maximize reward. It can be exacerbated, however, by a worldview emphasizing achievement and perfection. Here are three simple steps to help keep us on track.
Read MoreWho am I? The value of therapy in finding ourselves
How do we answer the question “who am I?” While it can seem like this must be a solo journey of self-discovery, we can only truly know who we are by how we are reflected in relationship with others…
Read MoreYour Work is Not Your Worth
Work is deeply intertwined with our sense of identity. Yet, when it becomes intertwined with our worth it can take on a very different sort of dimension….
Read MoreWork Devotion and the Myth of Separate Worlds
The work-devotion schema tells us that the most effective and committed workers are those that make work the sole focus of their lives. Yet, this schema gets a lot wrong about what the best employees actually look like….
Read MoreThe Problem with Goals
How can we be aware of when even our SMARTest goals become the most restraining?
Read MoreWhy are our 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s so stressful?
It’s not just your imagination, early adults experience the highest rates of mental illness of any age group, with rates only increasing year by year…
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