Do modern approaches to therapy rely too heavily on external tools and imagined supports to guide clients through their pain? What if the true healing potential lies not in these resources, but in our ability to stay fully present and attuned to them in the here-and-now?
Read MoreWhat if your loftiest of values, as noble as they are, fail to guide you when emotions are at their peak? Could it be that we get in our own way when we aspire to be more?
Read MoreWhen our view of self is in any way contingent on our success in the world, are we able freely choose to do anything at all?
Read MoreMastery of ourselves, others, and the world around us may feel like the way toward stability. But the process of gaining such control itself undermines they very ground we seek.
Read MoreWhen the endpoint of our lives is functioning, fitting in, or otherwise not having needs; our inner worlds can only be symptoms. The moment we begin to see our symptoms as gifts is the only moment we can experience true healing...
Read MoreThe sort of equanimity and nonjudgment we seek through mindfulness practices seem to hinge on an underlying sense of the world as non-threatening. If that is the case, and we are social creatures, are we missing something when we meditate?
Read MoreWhile exposure and response prevention remains the gold standard treatment for OCD, attachment science may offer us deep insight its curative factors.
Read MoreEvidence-based treatments may say more about us as counselors than they do about our clients. At the same time, if we can frame the discussion properly, we may actually learn a thing or two about ourselves.
Read MoreCutting the future short is not merely a matter of impulsive behavior but is deeply rooted in our cognitive and emotional responses to stress.
Read MoreThere’s only one way to step out of the cycle of blaming ourselves for blaming ourselves, and that’s to celebrate the value of self-blame in certain environments.
Read MoreUnderstanding how anxiety and depression are secondary, distancing emotions can help us learn how to better connect to ourselves and our loved ones when feeling distressed.
Read MoreThe only real buffer humans have against the abject absurdity and impossibility of existence is compassionate holding of our experience. The only way to such compassionate holding is through staying emotionally open to our own experience and the experience of others.
Read MoreEffective therapy mandates that we experiment with doing something different in our relationships. Knowing why awkwardness is so necessary to this process can help us embrace it in therapy…
Read MoreHow patterns of criticism and withdrawal apply to both couples and individuals, and what we can do about it.
Read MoreA simple, encompassing definition of stress also gives us a simple, encompassing solution.
Read MoreIt can be frustrating when our counselor just won’t tell us what to do. Yet, there are often very good reasons why avoiding advice is the right choice for your psychologist to make in helping you best.
Read MoreProcrastination is an inherent feature of brains which seek to maximize reward. It can be exacerbated, however, by a worldview emphasizing achievement and perfection. Here are three simple steps to help keep us on track.
Read MoreHow do we answer the question “who am I?” While it can seem like this must be a solo journey of self-discovery, we can only truly know who we are by how we are reflected in relationship with others…
Read MoreWork is deeply intertwined with our sense of identity. Yet, when it becomes intertwined with our worth it can take on a very different sort of dimension….
Read MoreThe work-devotion schema tells us that the most effective and committed workers are those that make work the sole focus of their lives. Yet, this schema gets a lot wrong about what the best employees actually look like….
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