The Inherent Fragility of Success
When our view of self is in any way contingent on our success in the world, are we able freely choose to do anything at all?
Read MoreWhen Connection Fails, Control Prevails
Mastery of ourselves, others, and the world around us may feel like the way toward stability. But the process of gaining such control undermines they very ground we seek.
Read MoreOur Symptoms are a Gift
When the endpoint of our lives is functioning, fitting in, or otherwise not having needs; our inner worlds can only be symptoms. The moment we begin to see our symptoms as gifts is the only moment we can experience true healing...
Read MoreIs Secure Attachment the Missing Ingredient in Mindful Detachment?
The sort of equanimity and nonjudgment we seek through mindfulness practices seem to hinge on an underlying sense of the world as non-threatening. If that is the case, and we are social creatures, are we missing something when we meditate?
Read MoreCan Attachment Science Explain OCD?
While exposure and response prevention remains the gold standard treatment for OCD, attachment science may offer us deep insight its curative factors.
Read MoreEvidence-Based Treatments: Who’s the Real Client Here?
Evidence-based treatments may say more about us as counselors than they do about our clients. At the same time, if we can frame the discussion properly, we may actually learn a thing or two about ourselves.
Read MoreCutting the Future Short
Cutting the future short is not merely a matter of impulsive behavior but is deeply rooted in our cognitive and emotional responses to stress.
Read MoreThe Benefits of Self-Blame
There’s only one way to step out of the cycle of blaming ourselves for blaming ourselves, and that’s to celebrate the value of self-blame in certain environments.
Read MoreWhat do you mean anxiety and depression aren't vulnerable enough!?: Navigating anxiety and depression in couple therapy
Understanding how anxiety and depression are secondary, distancing emotions can help us learn how to better connect to ourselves and our loved ones when feeling distressed.
Read MoreHow to Stay Emotionally Available in an Emotionally-Closed World
The only real buffer humans have against the abject absurdity and impossibility of existence is compassionate holding of our experience. The only way to such compassionate holding is through staying emotionally open to our own experience and the experience of others.
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